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Love Possessiveness Test (RPI)

How possessive are you in love? Measure control, jealousy, emotional dependence, and relationship insecurity to see the boundaries behind your attachment.

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5–8 minDuration
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About This Test

Possessiveness in love is something nearly everyone experiences. Healthy concern is a natural part of caring, but excessive control, jealousy, and insecurity can weigh a relationship down and even suffocate both partners.

This test (Romantic Possessiveness Index, RPI) is designed based on Attachment Theory and research on jealousy psychology. It measures your possessiveness across four dimensions: control, jealousy, emotional dependence, and relationship insecurity.

Answer intuitively and honestly, without trying to look good. The result will tell you whether you are the Independent, Healthy, Tense, or Controlling type, along with your score on each dimension and targeted advice.

How It Works

01There are 40 questions, each describing a feeling or behavior in love. Answer with your first instinct and don't overthink.
02Use the 5-point scale: strongly disagree, disagree, neutral, agree, strongly agree. The more it matches your real situation, the higher the score.
03Some items are reverse-scored to prevent a habitual response pattern and keep the result honest.
04Once you finish, a report is generated with your overall type, your four dimension scores, and targeted advice. You can view it or share it with your partner.

Why Take It

Understand your attachment style

Discover where your possessiveness comes from — a lack of security or a controlling tendency — so you can manage your relationship more consciously.

Improve how you relate

Use your four dimension scores and advice to find starting points for communication and reduce friction caused by misunderstanding and control.

Know yourself even when single

Even if you're currently single, you can recognize potential tendencies in future relationships and build healthy boundaries early.

Results Preview

See how possessive you are in love

Independent · Very Low Possessiveness

You give your partner abundant freedom

Healthy · Moderate Possessiveness

The right balance of closeness and independence

Tense · Higher Possessiveness

Easily insecure, needing more security

Controlling · Very High Possessiveness

Intense possessiveness may strain the relationship
4 Glossary
Control — Wanting to monitor your partner's whereabouts, social life, and decisions, using control to feel safe.
Jealousy — Easily jealous, overthinking, or uneasy about your partner's friendships and past.
Emotional Dependence — Relying on your partner as your main emotional anchor, overly dependent in mood and daily life.
Relationship Insecurity — Lacking security in the relationship, often fearing abandonment or feeling unloved.

Sample Question

“I want to know my partner's whereabouts at all times.”

FAQ

This possessiveness scale is designed based on Attachment Theory and research on jealousy psychology, refined for reliability and validity, giving it solid scientific reference value. However, no online test can replace professional counseling — take the result as a tool for self-understanding.